Archive for the ‘Parent Alienation’ Category

Parent Alienation is any type of behavior, whether verbal or non-verbal, which mentally manipulates a child into believing that the other parent is the cause of all of the problems (their’s and the alienating parent’s) in their lives and that the other parent is the “enemy”, “bad one”, “dead beat”, “irresponsible” or one to be feared, hated, disrespected and/or avoided.

If you feel that your parent is doing this….please tell someone like a counselor, who can help you.

There are many methods that the alienating parent may use and I will post them a couple at a time.

Pay attention to the reality of the situation, not the fantasy in your mind.

My significant other’s ex wife told her 17 year old son that she would rather die than have her son live with his father and that she would take him to court….She has also documented that she has no involvement in her son’s relationship with his father.  He is having trouble at home with her apparently.  He says she is controlling and difficult.   It  probably had to do with his confusion about his father.  He wants to know more about his dad so he called him and asked to come live with him.   She, of course, blew a gasket and convinced him that he didn’t know his dad well enough and if he knew what he was really like…… What a typical way to scare someone into doing what they want.  She wants her son to continue to “hate” his father and she has almost succeeded.  The 17 year old doesn’t hate his dad, but is used to the fact that his father is not around, so that must mean what mom said is true….that he doesn’t care or is not interested.  The child has no idea what the father has gone thru because the mom has methodically, thru the years, brainwashed all 3 of the children into believing that “dad” is a deadbeat.  She has made it her life’s mission to destroy this man.  Why?  She got divorced….and she got a bunch of money.   Why would she want to emotionally mess up her own kids?  It is one of the most self centered things that a person can do.  She has basically controlled the lives and well being of 4 people…..and all for her own interests.

Over the next few months, I will be posting the signs of parent alienation, as well as some facts.  Our system needs to change.  Too many children are being affected by the untreated  personality disorders of others…and yup….I’m pissed.

I know of several situations where a couple with children has divorced and the custodial parent has made it a mission to destroy the other parent. What they do not think about is how their children will be affected as adults. How will they be able to have normal relationships? What about their ability to cope? 33% of kids that are alienated from their parent become chemically dependent. And….what happens when they find out what their parent has done? That’s 10 years of therapy right there.

…i.e., those who are divorced with children….that put their kids in the middle of their inability to cope?  I would really like to know why anyone would think it would be ok to keep a child from it’s rightful biological parent. That’s a person who needs a warning label and a whole lot of help.